A. No money, no honey. No cash, no a$$.
Money is a common reason people get married and probably the
most common reason people get divorced. There’s nothing wrong with potential. But does potential pay the
bills? Does one’s propensity for
profitable gains make them a catch? Or does one’s actual earnings make them a catch? Is one considered a gold digger
if he or she prefers a mate with a little money? Well, it’s the age-old
question. If you’re gainfully employed and you’re a mover and shaker, I see no
problem in ensuring that your mate is making money. Now on the flip side, if I’ve
got my hair done, nails done but I don’t have anywhere to stay and I’m looking
for a come up, that’s different and ratchet.
Being equally financially yoked is important too.
But
what if you’re both making money and then one of you loses your job. That puts
a financial and emotional strain on your relationship. This requires you to put those “for richer or
for poorer” vows into action. When this
happens, you need to pray and then you need to budget. Pray for your mate’s
career, pray for your household, pray for your strength to endure, and pray
that God continues to make a way. Budget—decide
what’s a necessity and what’s a luxury. But don’t cut out ALL the luxuries because
that could lead to more problems. If he’s
used to seeing you with your hair done, don’t start looking like Crusty the
Clown. If she’s used to seeing you with your hair cut and waves like the ocean,
don’t start looking like Ben Wallace.
Make these decisions together and make them with God at the center.
In
conclusion, being broke ain’t no joke and times are hard when the money is
funny. Pulling your weight financially AND having the strength to push through
when money is low and upgrade the other when they’re on the rise, will keep the
love alive.
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Mo Money, Mo Problems……
I agree, money is a tough situation. Sometimes you get to the point where you're desperate to pay off some bills and stop working four 12 hour shifts at the place you love and start working somewhere else, and once you get there....you're getting the money you need, but it comes at a cost. You are no longer enjoying what you do for a living, just coming and putting your time in like many others do now a days. But....you do what you have to do to meet those short term goals, even if it does include a little suffering (and dreaming of the day when you'll get back to the place and people you love :-) We all do what we must to survive, meet our current needs, and continue to meet our WANTS. My question to you is.....Are we as people living too frivolously in these days and times? Do we really take the time, or HAVE the time, to sit back and "smell the roses"? There was once a time, in school, when all it took was $20 and a tank of gas to have the times of our lives. Granted, our current responsibilites are greater than that now.....but what can we do as people to release ourselves from gluttony and return to that simple minded way of living???
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